As the tenth anniversary of 9/11 comes to a close I reflect.....not on where I was or what I was doing. I can remember it as if I were still there. The fear, the shock, and the knowledge that life would never be the same.......
I reflect on the why we were attacked.....We were attacked because of our way of life, because of our freedoms.....two things that most of us take for granted every day. I remember being in high school and being asked what freedom meant to me......at 18 years old it meant being able to do what I wanted to, when I wanted to, how I wanted to.....As Americans we see freedom as an idea something we can not hold it in our hands. As a mother I hold freedom in my arms everyday!! When my little girls talk about being Doctors or nurses, when they ask how long it takes to work through college. When my son talks about being a fire guy (he is 4) or when he says he is going to be an Army man. When I hold those babies in my arms at night as they drift off to sleep, when they sit with me as they read their favorite book, I hold freedom, I see freedom and I believe in freedom a little bit more everyday.
Let's not forget the innocent lives that were cut short by those that fear the freedom we love. Let's not forget those that stood up and said NOT again! Let's pray for those that stand guard so that the same tragedy doesn't happen again.
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Sunday, September 11, 2011
Thursday, September 8, 2011
reputation........
Last night was our first Girl Scout meeting....I am now the new leader of the Kindergarten troop (this should be interesting!) Seeing how I have not a crafty bone in my body! It looks like I will have great assistants. The mommies are conversing amongst ourselves and I happened to make a comment about being busier than I needed to be. Since my husband is deployed and I have three small children and I am trying to get my Avon business up and running. Well another mother makes the comment, "well now that you are busier, your husband can be reassured that you won't have time to be out there messing around." REALLY??? So that is the reputation us Army wives have....sadly there is so much truth to that. How sad is that? When I tell people that my husband is deployed people don't wonder if I am sad that my husband is gone, they assume that I am probably having an affair while he is off fighting in a foreign country. While I know it happens, I have seen it happen to both Soldiers deployed and in Garrison, it is still sad that that is the conclusion strangers come to. It is offending to say the least.
(sn: would anyone like to adopt my dogs??? LOL)
I want to interview the next woman that finds herself in a torrid affair.....The main question is: How do you have time to have an affair, while your spouse is deployed?? There are days that I brush my teeth at 11 am because I can't remember if I brushed them when I got out of bed!!!!! My day starts at 6 am. Kids have to be woken up, breakfast served, lunches made, hair to be combed, then it is everyone in the car, a drive to school, back home to clean up the kitchen, fix lunch, laundry, vacuuming, scrub bathrooms, more laundry, toys to be picked up, Avon to be delivered, fold some laundry, iron, and in all that mess there is a small boy to tend to. That is not counting volunteer hours spent out of the home or outings with friends or the yard work that has to be done. Do people that have affairs have better time management or do they just have skewed priorities??
Unfortunately this reputation will continue until Army Wives themselves step up and show the world that they are better than that!! Alas....guess I will chalk it up to getting to know the mommies in my Girl Scout troop!!!
(sn: would anyone like to adopt my dogs??? LOL)
I want to interview the next woman that finds herself in a torrid affair.....The main question is: How do you have time to have an affair, while your spouse is deployed?? There are days that I brush my teeth at 11 am because I can't remember if I brushed them when I got out of bed!!!!! My day starts at 6 am. Kids have to be woken up, breakfast served, lunches made, hair to be combed, then it is everyone in the car, a drive to school, back home to clean up the kitchen, fix lunch, laundry, vacuuming, scrub bathrooms, more laundry, toys to be picked up, Avon to be delivered, fold some laundry, iron, and in all that mess there is a small boy to tend to. That is not counting volunteer hours spent out of the home or outings with friends or the yard work that has to be done. Do people that have affairs have better time management or do they just have skewed priorities??
Unfortunately this reputation will continue until Army Wives themselves step up and show the world that they are better than that!! Alas....guess I will chalk it up to getting to know the mommies in my Girl Scout troop!!!
Saturday, September 3, 2011
....a broken heart
My poor baby. It is one thing to not understand why Daddy has to go away. It is much harder to soothe the worry away when your child has a grasp of what is really going on when Daddy goes away like this. The first time both girls were so little that it was just a blip on the radar that Daddy was gone. Yes, Allyson asked for him daily but there was no fear and no worry about what Daddy was doing. The second time, there was some worry but not really any fear. It was understood that Daddy was going to be ok. This time Allyson is having a much harder time dealing with Daddy being gone.
My theory is, she realizes that this "work" is not the same as what he does when he is home. Allyson knows so much more than we give her credit for. She is perceptive and smart as a whip! She hears what adults talk about, even when we think she can't hear us. She has watched the news and she knows that Soldiers die in Afghanistan. She knows that the reality is: that her father could be injured or heaven forbid, killed doing this "job."
As an adult I understand that these fears are rational and pretty normal. My heart just can't wrap around the fact that my baby has to deal with these fears. How do I comfort her when I have the same fears? How do I reassure her that regardless of what happens, we will be ok? How do I reassure her that he will be as safe as possible? I can't and neither can anyone else. All I can do is hold her in my arms, as she cries for her the greatest man in her life. Which he is. He is her Knight in Shining Armor! He makes all the scary stuff go away and he can throw her high in the air!!
My theory is, she realizes that this "work" is not the same as what he does when he is home. Allyson knows so much more than we give her credit for. She is perceptive and smart as a whip! She hears what adults talk about, even when we think she can't hear us. She has watched the news and she knows that Soldiers die in Afghanistan. She knows that the reality is: that her father could be injured or heaven forbid, killed doing this "job."
As an adult I understand that these fears are rational and pretty normal. My heart just can't wrap around the fact that my baby has to deal with these fears. How do I comfort her when I have the same fears? How do I reassure her that regardless of what happens, we will be ok? How do I reassure her that he will be as safe as possible? I can't and neither can anyone else. All I can do is hold her in my arms, as she cries for her the greatest man in her life. Which he is. He is her Knight in Shining Armor! He makes all the scary stuff go away and he can throw her high in the air!!
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