My poor baby. It is one thing to not understand why Daddy has to go away. It is much harder to soothe the worry away when your child has a grasp of what is really going on when Daddy goes away like this. The first time both girls were so little that it was just a blip on the radar that Daddy was gone. Yes, Allyson asked for him daily but there was no fear and no worry about what Daddy was doing. The second time, there was some worry but not really any fear. It was understood that Daddy was going to be ok. This time Allyson is having a much harder time dealing with Daddy being gone.
My theory is, she realizes that this "work" is not the same as what he does when he is home. Allyson knows so much more than we give her credit for. She is perceptive and smart as a whip! She hears what adults talk about, even when we think she can't hear us. She has watched the news and she knows that Soldiers die in Afghanistan. She knows that the reality is: that her father could be injured or heaven forbid, killed doing this "job."
As an adult I understand that these fears are rational and pretty normal. My heart just can't wrap around the fact that my baby has to deal with these fears. How do I comfort her when I have the same fears? How do I reassure her that regardless of what happens, we will be ok? How do I reassure her that he will be as safe as possible? I can't and neither can anyone else. All I can do is hold her in my arms, as she cries for her the greatest man in her life. Which he is. He is her Knight in Shining Armor! He makes all the scary stuff go away and he can throw her high in the air!!
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